Consensus Minus One: Keeping the Conversation Moving
Think of important conversations as the "group pizza order" of decision-making: maybe you didn’t get your favorite toppings, but you’re still getting a slice.
Ever been in a meeting where everyone agrees… except for that one person who just can’t get on board? Here’s the thing—consensus doesn’t mean everyone has to agree 100%. It means the group has found a solution that everyone can live with, even if it’s not their first choice. Think of it as the "group pizza order" of decision-making: maybe you didn’t get your favorite toppings, but you’re still getting a slice.
Everyone’s perspective matters, and sometimes, that lone voice could be pointing out something crucial.
But before you dig in, remember—dissenters aren’t just being Debbie Downers or trying to sabotage the project. They’re often raising important points because they want to be seen, heard, and validated. Everyone’s perspective matters, and sometimes, that lone voice could be pointing out something crucial. These are moments when consensus isn’t enough.
🛑 If a decision crosses ethical boundaries, it's important that everyone feels comfortable and aligned. Consensus isn’t enough if someone feels it’s morally wrong.
🛑 When safety is on the line, even one person’s objection can’t be overlooked. Every voice matters when it comes to keeping everyone safe.
🛑 If a decision might breach legal obligations, that lone dissenting voice could be raising a red flag that needs full attention.
While consensus works for most group decisions, it’s not a one-size-fits-all. The important thing is to keep the decision-making process from coming to a complete stop for something that just isn’t that serious.
Next time you find yourself with a lone dissenter, encourage them to reflect on the issue’s significance. Here’s something you might say to help them feel heard while gently guiding the conversation toward progress:
"I appreciate your perspective—it's clear you're thinking this through. If it's not an ethical, safety, or legal issue, let's see if we can find a way to move forward that works for everyone. What's the minimum you need to feel comfortable?"
Hope this helps! 🍕
Have you had to deal with this situation? What did you do? Is there anything you wish you’d have done differently?
Hi, I’m Ellie Scott, Founder and Chief Strategist at Bayleaf Consulting. At Bayleaf, we're all about helping nonprofits like yours turn challenges into opportunities with strategic planning that works. Whether you're grappling with your next big move, trying to rally your team, or just need a fresh perspective, we're here to guide you with a mix of experience, creativity, and a genuine passion for making a difference. 🌟 Learn more about us!
